BDSM is one of the best kind of sex you can have. I’ve heard that a lot about it, haven’t you? This gave me an idea: why not try BDSM? Well, I did, and I am now here to tell you all about it.
How to try BDSM
I mean… I’d already experienced spanking or tying a partner to the bed, but it was just foreplay, or something we did in passing, not the experience itself. I wanted to try the real thing. Well, my first question was: who do I try BDSM with? I wanted my first time to be with someone a bit more experienced. So I went on a dating app and chatted with a few people until I found someone keen for some kink.
Keen for some kink
Fast forward, this guy and I are now in bed. He’s more experienced, and we decide that he’ll be in charge here. He first told me to lie on the bed and blind-folded me with a soft, silky scarf. He then gently but firmly tied my hands and feet to the four corners of the bed. That’s the first part I had to adapt with, as I’m not used to not being in full control of my body while in bed. He told me to choose a “safe word”, and everything would stop the second I’d use it. Consent is key. I chose “Velvet”.
Power play
He started pouring drops of hot max from a massage candle on stomach. Then my neck. And finally my nipples. My body arched with both surprise and pleasure. I started feeling hot inside. I tried to speak but he asked me to keep quiet. He told me to let my mind wander and picture the fantasy. Then I felt something colder caressing my body, starting from my toes and going all the way up to my shoulders. It felt like cold strings… and then whipped me. Not strongly. I understood then: it was a swift. It felt like a warning. The warning that things were going to escalate from here….
I’m gonna skip the rest of the night. All I can tell you is that it was hot. I felt very free to play and experiment, especially with Ben, the guy I found on the app. It was a very nice way to try BDSM. He told me beforehand he had a lot of experience and respect for this practice, and that’s what you want. I loved allowing someone else to take the reins. I loved being asked for my consent at every step, whenever things escalated. I’d recommend it 100% – and I’ll go back on the app for different partners to show me more.