Thirsty for your first threesome? I got your back.

Guys, you know me, I’m not one to shy away from a new adventure… But I recently had a chat about my first threesome and remembered how intimidating it can be. Yet with the right partners and just a few tips, this experience can turn into a mind-blowing one!

So let me prepare you and guide you through your first ménage-à-trois with 5 tips that seem super important to me.

How to have a threesome: let’s get ready

First things first: you need to figure out what you’d like to happen during the threesome and why. If you’re not sure you want it or if you are doing it to please someone else: don’t do it. You’re not going to enjoy the experience and you’ll probably leave the room with a bitter taste in your mouth. If you’re curious about the experience and want to explore your desires with multiple partners: this is perfect for you.

Find the right partners in crime

This is quite an important step to a fantastic threesome, don’t you think? Whether you’re a single looking for a couple or a couple looking for a single, stars can sometimes align and provide the right partners for you. But let’s be real – spontaneously meeting people to follow you in your sexual explorations can often be tricky.

Fortunately for us, technology is here to help. In my opinion, the best way to find good threesome partners is through an app. Think about it: you’ll find people who are already curious about this practice. They might be more experienced and ready to guide you. AND you can decide to stay in touch afterwards or not, which makes everything easier. (Spoiler alert: having a three-way with a friend can get really messy. Go for it if you know it will be fun though!)

Communicate & Make sure everyone’s comfortable

Okay now, we know what we want and we’ve found the right partners. Next step: Communicate. I can’t stress this one enough. Express your needs, desires and concerns to your sexual partners, and don’t forget to mention your emotional and/or physical non-negotiables. Get everyone’s consent – a good, loud, enthusiastic yes!

You can even decide on a safe word before anything happens. Remember it is also totally okay to take a 10 minute break during sex to check-in with yourself. I see sex as a fancy dinner: tasters, starters, delicious binging moments and some breaks in-between courses. It all serves a final purpose: the unbeatable feeling of satisfaction in the end.

If you’re a couple: make room!

Aah guys, we know: you’re a couple, and you’re in love. But you have plenty of time to be “couply” some other night. If you’ve asked a third person to join you, it’s probably so the three of you can have fun together. Make room for your unicorn. Make them feel welcome and wanted.

For example, make sure your bed is big enough for three and think of positions that are threeway-friendly. There’s nothing worse than feeling left out in this situation. Actually, now is probably a good time to remind you that a threesome will not fix your relationship. If you’re experiencing intimacy issues within your relationship, fix them before bringing in a third partner. Believe me.

Go beyond the MMF triad

I’d say my favourite threesome experience was in a MMF dynamic – which means two men, one female (yours truly). That being said, I had an amazing experience in a MFF combo (you get the idea: two female + one male). For a first experience, I’d advise you to try what feels best for you. Watching threesome porn can be a great way to find out what you’re drawn to in the first place. But don’t hesitate to explore beyond your natural instincts and be curious. You could try an all men threesome (MMM), all-female (FFF), or gender-fluid threesome (GFT), for example.

A lot more could be said about threesomes, but I wouldn’t want you to overthink this. You’ll know what to do in the moment. To sum up, I’d advise you to be yourself, have fun and be generous. And of course, as always, hydrate and be safe !

Find out more: For a good laugh and fun tips on the subject, I’d recommend the episode “YOU JERKED OFF TO LIGHTNING?” from the podcast “guys we f***d” hosted by New York-based comedians Corinne Fisher and Krystyna Hutchinson.

With Love,

Jenna.

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